Yes, you read it well. There are dating tips specifically for lesbians. But why?
The essential difference between homosexuals and heterosexuals is in sexual orientation.
But in practice, in everyday life, dating also sometimes work a little differently for those who are attracted to their own gender.
There are plenty of dating tips for male-female couples. But here are 5 advice that heterosexuals probably don’t even think. After all, these things do not pop up in their case, either. However, these are useful for lesbians.
1. Dating only with someone who is on the same level of the coming out
Perhaps this is the hardest of the dating tips!
We hope we have translated the first dating advice in an understandable way. But if not, here is the broader and clearer version. Anyone who is already coming out should only try to build a long-term relationship with someone who taken on her lesbian orientation publicly. On the other hand, if someone keeps this aspect of her life a real secret, it is good to dating and live together with someone who also wants to keep it in a secret.
For obvious reasons, this does not a issue in a heterosexual relationships. But a relationship between two women can easily be ruined off, if one of them is already thinking about having a child and taking her partner with her for family Christmas. In contrast, the other hasn’t even told her best friend that she is a lesbian.
2. Sometimes you need to spend the night separately
In a heterosexual relationship, it works more or less automatically that the woman sometimes goes to a party with her girlfriends. And sometimes the man also has some fun separately, with his own buddies. However, for a lesbian couple, there is obviously no such thing as a girly night or a bachelor party, where the partner is implicitly warn from. The psychologist says such separate evenings are good.
However, a lesbian couple has the same interests and circle of friends. And it is sometimes good to organizing a separate evening, from the beginning of the relationship. If this habit is not introduced from the first minute in a homosexual relationship, it will be much more challenging later to establish it without conflicts.
3. Everyone offers a salary
For heterosexual couples, according to the traditions, the man pays, at least for the first date. (I mean, for dinner, coffee, drinks, movie tickets, etc.) For same-sex couples, the roles aren’t so clearly divided.
This is good because, it is normal to talk about the material issues. So a lesbian couple does the best practice if they introduce, at least initially, that they split all the dating costs, everyone pays for themselves.
4. You should only move in after one year
The stereotype about lesbians – in America at least – is that almost immediately, they move together on the second date. It is not known whether this is true, but it is inevitable that it is not suitable for a psychologist to have this level of commitment. In general, the psychologist says that if approx. a year has endured the relationship, and you may want to just call the removal company.
The first 12 months must be endured separately.
5. the “general” dating tip
Not a word about the ex! This is also recommended for heterosexuals. But the psychologist says this is often a novelty for lesbians many times, even though everyone in the heterosexuals know and followed this rule.
The point is that no one, regardless of gender, shouldn’t talk about the past loves. And breaks of someone you’re dating!